Yellow Bus

It is interesting to see how Ayden’s interests changes.

He loved water fountain in our neighborhood lake. He wanted to watch it for several minutes every time we went for walk. Sometimes at home he would ask to go for walk and point us to lake.

His first true obsession was fans. Whenever he would see a fan, he would get so excited and point towards it. Tell everyone about it. Sometimes he would ask me to carry him throughout the house and so he can see all different fans in the house.

Then he got obsessed with Romba. He would want it on all the time. However, he was also afraid of it. So he wanted it on but not too close.

He also fell in love with Elmo. Not sure how it started but we watched way too much Elmo.

He had a brief affair with waterfalls.

Now he is obsessed with buses, especially, yellow school buses. Everyday taking him to daycare, he would get excited to see school buses. So one day I made a mistake of playing “Go Buster” on Netflix. And it became his new obsession. It became a daily ritual to watch it at bedtime and first thing in the morning.

It is funny that in the mornings, he would want to go see real life yellow bus. He would say “outside yellow bus” once he is done with Buster yellow bus and ready for daycare.

Now he has switched “Tayo” too.

We need to stop introducing him to new TV shows. And wean off these TV shows too.

Helplessness

Nothing will make you feel as helpless as unable to help your child.

Hina went out of town for a weekend a few months back. Ayden and I stayed back home. Ayden is used to eating from Hina. He only eats snacks from me. Hina prepared several of Ayden’s favorite foods before leaving but he won’t eat any of it. I think he was missing his mom, so even snacks, he barely ate any.

At that stage, Ayden was in love with apples. But there were no apples at home. He kept asking for apples. We drove to McDonald’s to get sliced apples but he didn’t like those. He won’t eat anything, I was feeling so helpless.

The worst part was in middle of night, in his sleep, he was sleep talking, kept repeating two words, “Eat” and “Aapull”. It broke my heart.

Ask HN: Parents of HN, what are your best sources for evidence-based parenting?

Here is a list of parenting books recommended by members of Hacker’s News community. All links are affiliate links to purchase these books from Amazon:

How to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen, and How to Listen So Your Kids Will Talk

One of a few books that are recommended multiple times in this thread. 4.5 stars with 1000+ reviews.

Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool by Emily Oster

Another book that was recommended by multiple people.

Be Prepared

Brain Rules for Babies

Let them Eat Dirt

What to Expect First Year

The Wonder Weeks

NurtureShock

The Whole Brain Child

No-Drama Discipline

Parenting From The Inside Out

Bringing Up Bébé

Peaceful Parents Happy Kids

The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems

Unconditional Parenting

Scientific Secrets for Raising Kids who Thrive

The Gardener and the Carpenter

Parenting without Power Struggles

All Joy and No Fun

Selfish Reasons to have More Kids

Source: Ask HN: Parents of HN, what are your best sources for evidence-based parenting? | Hacker News

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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“One study, for example, found that children who showed a secure attachment to their fathers by seeking them out for comfort when feeling stressed had fewer behavior problems and showed more competence in school and peer groups than did those who had an insecure relationship with their fathers.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“but the often observed increased involvement of fathers in the toddler years may be linked to findings that fathers as a group are more likely than mothers to promote the adventurous exploration and challenging play that toddlers are now ready to join.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“Two efficient strategies to decrease parent and child mutual frustration are creating safe spaces for toddlers that decrease the need for constant parental intervention and redirecting their attention by enticing them away from forbidden pursuits.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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