The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“One study, for example, found that children who showed a secure attachment to their fathers by seeking them out for comfort when feeling stressed had fewer behavior problems and showed more competence in school and peer groups than did those who had an insecure relationship with their fathers.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“but the often observed increased involvement of fathers in the toddler years may be linked to findings that fathers as a group are more likely than mothers to promote the adventurous exploration and challenging play that toddlers are now ready to join.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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The Emotional Life of the Toddler

“Two efficient strategies to decrease parent and child mutual frustration are creating safe spaces for toddlers that decrease the need for constant parental intervention and redirecting their attention by enticing them away from forbidden pursuits.”

— The Emotional Life of the Toddler by Alicia F. Lieberman
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Baby vs Dog

It is amazing how having your own kids changes everything.

I love my my dog and because of him I love almost all dogs. I hated leaving him home, so much, that I would not go to restaurants that don’t let dogs in patio. (With Whiskey Cake being notable exception). Every grocery trip, I would buy him a new toy, many times had arguments with wife because he had too many toys. Every vacation we would have huge argument because I wanted dog friendly vacation where we can take our dog.

Once I saw a friend’s child being rough with their dog and dog growled back. My friend got mad at the dog and put him in the crate. In my pre-fatherhood mind, this was horrible injustice. I knew enough to not say anything but I thought to myself I will never do that.

And then I have my own child. Initially, I was treating my dog and my son equally. If I buy a new toy for Ayden, I will get one for Simba too. Simba slept in bed with us while baby slept in the crib.

But soon I find myself favoring baby over dog. Started to leave Simba at home so we can go sit inside the restaurant with a/c. Buying toys for Ayden without buying anything for Simba. Now I sleep with Ayden and Simba sleeps on floor.

And now I find myself disciplining Simba if he growls even if it was Ayden who was being rough with him. Baby changes everything.